Psychotherapists and Psychotherapy for Cary, Raleigh, Apex, & Morrisville, NC, Dr. Bryce Kaye , Tele. 919 467 1180
Dr. Bryce Kaye
Author & Psychotherapist
In an old Greek myth, a host named Procrustes had a peculiar fetish for making his guests fit their bed at night. Instead of trying to "fit" a person’s needs into one school of therapy, I do my best to make sure my therapeutic approach fits a person’s needs. While my techniques are varied, my style does lean in one direction. I have a reputation for being extremely active and direct in the form of an "active advocacy". Many clients have found themselves dissatisfied with prior psychotherapists and counselors who have merely been passive and emotionally supportive. My style is more ambitious. The first thing I do is to help the person clarify goals and get an agreement about what we are trying to accomplish. From then on, I direct focus and energy toward whatever will be most helpful toward reaching those goals. Very often, a person’s history is relevant in understanding how certain emotions or beliefs became conditioned to their current state. However, I find that insight and understanding alone are usually insufficient to produce most emotional changes. To bring about changes in emotion or emotionally determined behavior, a well-designed plan of intervention is necessary. When I make recommendations for a course of intervention, I always explain the principles of psychology and emotion behind it.
In the course psychotherapy, I do a fair amount of personalized teaching. One way that I do rely on insight is to teach a person how to influence their emotions. Our emotions follow a somewhat different set of rules than ordinary behavior. Usually, we can immediately choose how we want to behave. With emotions, we can’t. Our feelings are learned in a different way than what we think of as ordinary learning. We learn to feel certain ways through either powerful or repetitive emotional experience. Psychologists call this type of learning "conditioning." My style of therapy has been influenced by my years of study of psychophysiology and how emotions are “conditioned.” My theoretical orientation incorporates Russian research on perception and conditioned reflexes as well as western research on the brain circuitry of attention, perception, emotions and learning. I have found that while our emotional conditioning can’t be immediately changed, it can be gradually altered if we learn to use the correct tools. In very effective psychotherapy, these tools are employed and people make dramatic changes in their feelings. So the paradox is this: feelings can be changed but you just need to learn some new rules about how to influence them without trying to control them.
The following are some of the kinds of psychotherapy that I do. Click on any topic for a more in-depth description of how I approach it.
Marriage counseling and relationship therapy (Click Here)
Adjustment counseling & stress management (Click Here)
Healing emotional wounds (trauma resolution) (Click Here)
Raising self-esteem and reducing self-defeating shame (Click Here)
Anger management & assertiveness training (Click Here)
Some very technical papers I have written about psychotherapy
Reversing Reciprocal Suppression in the Anterior Cingulate Cortex
Conflict Inoculation Training
Interactive Cognitive Motor Interweaves
Some of my articles that you might find interesting:
Anger - The Misunderstood Emotion
When Empathy Becomes Codependence
Beyond Equality
All in the Name of Honesty
Misguided Hope
Rethinking Intimacy
What About This Business of Falling in Love?
Wise Mistakes
Our Most Cherished Myths About Love
The Art of Negotiating For Space
The Paradox of Being Human
Letting Go of Harmful Relationships
When Trust is Not Enough
Some discussions I've had with people who've asked questions on the internet.
Addictions or compulsions
Careers
Children affecting relationship
Communication
Emotional avoidance
Grief or depression
Infidelity
In-laws
Jealousy or privacy issues
Lies or deceit
Money
Not in love
Rejection or separation
Sexual interest
Unproductive arguing
Violence
Miscellaneous
Captain Bryce Kaye is a U.S. Coast Guard licensed merchant marine officer with a masters level certification. In addition to his work at Cary CounselingCenter, read about Dr. Kaye's other unique service that offers a highly personalized marriage counseling cruise. Click Here to read more.
We encourage you to compare all this information with the writings of other psychotherapists to ensure that your choice reflects the best fit for you. If you want to explore the possibility of psychotherapy with me, I usually recommend one session and then you can go home and think about it. One session is usually enough time for me to give you feedback about a recommended direction and strategy. To schedule a meeting time, in the triangle call 919-467-1180. If you want me to see you at Oriental Counseling Center, call me at 252-249-3099.
