Expert marriage counselors at Cary Counseling Center have helped couples in the Triangle since 1984. Our marriage counseling is based on the neuroscience of how emotions interact and evolve over time. Most couples know how to communicate just fine at the start of their relationship.  We train people how to manage the emotions that have broken down their communication over time. Areas served include Raleigh, Cary, Apex, Morrisville, Holly Springs & Fuquay-Varina, NC

Our marriage counselors emphasize goal-focused strategic marriage counseling.  It’s NOT the passive “listening” therapy that takes years to produce results.  Our strategic counseling has several characteristics that make it especially effective:

Careful Assessment –  The strategy is tailored to each couple.  One size doesn’t fit all.  Social history, old traumas, schemas, behavioral patterns, level of dissociation, inhibition of meta-motivational states and parental templates are all assessed to find out where to focus the marriage counseling.  Marriage counselors who focus focus on communication are only dealing with surface issues.  Communication breaks down because  of subtle emotions in the unconscious.  When those emotions are better managed, communication opens up because the person can think differently.  Even subtle emotions can change how the brain operates.   It’s important to determine which emotions are sabotaging communication so that they can be retrained.

Clear Goals – Goals are negotiated at the start of marriage counseling so that all parties agree on what’s realistic to accomplish. Progress toward the goals is reviewed regularly so that everyone can be held accountable to stay on task. 

Active Intervention – Our marriage counselors teach, confront, model and challenge clients to practice different behaviors both in and between sessions.  The emphasis is on training.

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