Cary Counseling has provided expert counseling and therapy for the Triangle area since 1984. Our counselors and psychotherapists provide marriage counseling, individual psychotherapy, anger management, child play therapy, family counseling, substance abuse counseling, and personal growth coaching. Areas served include Raleigh, Cary, Apex, Morrisville, Holly Springs & Fuquay-Varina, NC
Our therapists emphasize goal-focused strategic individual therapy and marriage counseling. It’s NOT the passive “listening” therapy that takes years to produce results. Our strategic counseling has several characteristics that make it especially effective:
Careful Assessment – The strategy for counseling is tailored to each person or couple. One size doesn’t fit all. Social history, old traumas, schemas, behavioral patterns, level of dissociation, inhibition of meta-motivational states and parental templates are all assessed to find out where to focus the counseling. Marriage counseling that focuses on communication is really only dealing with surface issues. Communication breaks down because of subtle emotions in the unconscious. When those emotions are better managed, communication opens up because the person can think differently. Even subtle emotions can change how the brain operates. It’s important to determine which emotions are sabotaging communication so that they can be reconditioned. For individual counseling, underlying schemas may be provoking unwanted self-defeating behavior. Underlying trauma may be generating irrational anxiety that blocks a person from living to the fullest. It is important to assess for these hidden factors that knocks a person off balance.
Clear Goals – Goals are negotiated at the beginning so that all parties can agree on what’s realistic and what’s not. Progress toward the goals is reviewed regularly so that everyone can be held accountable to stay on task.
Active Intervention – The therapist teaches, confronts, models, challenges clients to practice different behavior both in and between sessions. In marriage counseling, the emphasis is on training each partner to practice the behavior and thoughts that will change emotions over time. Our most intensive marriage interventions are week long nautical marriage retreats with marriage counseling by Dr. Bryce Kaye and his wife Helen. These couples counseling retreats are totally private and involve only one couple at a time sailing to different port towns on the rivers and sounds of North Carolina. Read more about these Love Odyssey marriage counseling retreats.
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A Faster Cutting-Edge Approach – Cary Counseling Center has developed a new individual therapy that has shown amazing results for our clients. We call it “HRG” and it’s common for a client to experience profound relief from a traumatic memory or life-long schema in a single session. It’s a blend of techniques taken from neuroscience research. At its core, HRG utilizes the new science of memory reconsolidation which shows how fear and pain can be stripped from memory. You can Google the term “memory reconsolidation” for more information.
We have observed HRG to give profound relief for the following kinds of problems:
- Traumas – PTSD, history of physical or sexual abuse, combat trauma, motor vehicle accidents, partner betrayals, witnessing a death, etc.
- Phobias – Fear of driving, fear of flying, fear of water, etc.
- Schemas – These are unconscious rules that keep a person repeating self-defeating behaviors. They are trained into a person during childhood. Some examples:
” If I ask for what I want…..then I will be ignored or hurt, so I must always earn it by pleasing others first.”
” If I negotiate for what I want…..then I’m selfish and bad, so I must always sacrifice for others above myself.”
” If I don’t do something perfectly…..then I’m lazy and no good, so I must always do it perfectly.”
” If someone is upset with me…..then I’m doing something wrong, so I must always make sure others are happy with me all the time.”
” If I let myself really enjoy something…..then it will be taken away from me and I will be hurt, so I must always work and stay responsible all the time.”