Many therapists employ a communication model for couples work that assumes that most couples’ problems derive from dysfunctional communication. The assumption seems to be that teaching better communication should resolve their difficulties. Unfortunately, most well-controlled studies show that only about one-third of the couples going through marital therapy are reporting significant post-treatment benefits. Those are not impressive statistics and they do not give much support for a simplistic communication therapy model. A couple’s communication usually breaks down because of more complex emotional dynamics. Those dynamics can involve historical shame issues, personality deficits, knowledge deficits, and boundary interactions. These issues can be quite complex but are still understandable. Browse the available services described below.
Cary Counseling Center Available Services
At Cary Counseling Center, our wide variety of available services teaching effective communication is only one small piece of a more comprehensive strategy. Even more emphasis is placed upon teaching a couple principles of effective emotional regulation. This may involve learning how to influence one’s own emotional state before projecting rage or behaving in a way that is toxic to the relationship. Old shame issues are clarified so that they do not unconsciously disrupt the relationship. Principles of “tact” are taught so that both partners experience less threat to their psychological boundaries while negotiating their needs. Couples are also taught about how “ego states” are often critical to getting their needs met and how to anticipate and schedule getting together so that both parties are receptive to each other. Sometimes, other forms of therapy will be a necessary first step in couple’s work. For example, sometimes group therapy or individual therapy is necessary to change a person’s internal emotional responses before the couple’s external interactions can constructively become the main focus.
Available Psychological Services
Ms. Miriane Portes is accepting referrals for both child and adolescent trauma psychotherapy.
Dr. Bryce Kaye, Ms. Miriane Portes, Ms. Brandy Templeton, and Ms. Deborah Riley are accepting referrals for adjustment counseling.
Dr. Bryce Kaye and Ms. Miriane Portes are accepting referrals for EMDR Therapy.
Most anger management training relies on techniques for consciously over-riding or redirecting emotion. Conflict inoculation training is a way of conditioning in new emotions to “mellow” out the anxiety.
At Cary Counseling Center, substance abuse counseling is only offered for people who are voluntarily seeking help with their chemical dependence. Where there is a court-ordered
A brief no-cost telephone consult. We will discuss whether a telephone or e-mail coaching arrangement for “marital first aid” or personal growth would be in your interest.
While teaching is often employed in good couple’s work, an emphasis is also placed on homework between sessions. The therapist often assigns homework in the form of communication or behavioral exercises. For example, a couple may be assigned homework to re-enact a recent argument but to do it in a newly agreed upon way. An individual may also be given homework to practice self-talk or guided imagery to deal with irrational beliefs or old feelings of shame that are intruding into the relationship. There are many other forms of homework that are too numerous to list here. The main point is that Cary Counseling therapists place an emphasis on practice and implementation in addition to insight. Currently, Dr. Bryce Kaye, Ms. Brandy Templeton, Ms. Miriane Portes, and Ms. Deborah Riley are accepting referrals for marriage counseling. You can leave either of them a message at 919 467 1180 or Contact Us Here.