This Marriage First Aid Kit contains extensive help for your marriage even without marriage counseling. Chapters 4 and ‘Chapter 8 in the Book Chapters section contain many useful tools. These chapters will help you to understand many things you never knew about your own relationship. You can also use the diagnostics section to read about common syndromes that might resemble your own. The Q & A Forum will link you to Dr. Kaye’s Love Odyssey website where he has listed advice given to hundreds of site visitors who have asked marriage related questions.
The Marriage First Aid Kit

- Foreword & Instructions
- Diagnostics (Learn to recognize syndromes)
- Book Chapters
- Relationship Videos
- Intimacy & Boundaries Articles
- Q & A Forum (Review past advice given for various problems)
- Relationship Belief Quiz – Print out this quiz to see where your relationship may be suffering because of your own erroneous beliefs about relationships. Expectations matter! Relationship Belief Quiz
- Print out Dr. Kaye’s paper called “Meaning Matters.” It discusses a concept called “level of consciousness” and contains a list of principles that protect and promote a Happy Relationship. You can then evaluate how disciplined you are in following each principle.
- Print out Dr. Kaye’s paper on ” Autonomous Corrections .” It is a strenuous regimen of exercises to strengthen mindful protection of your relationship and increase trust.
- Read Dr. Kaye’s discussion of ” Detachment Styles.” He explains how the whole field of psychology is blind to an important dimension in marriages.
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