Frank Discussion With Dr. Kaye Jean from Hyattsville, Md Q: MY QUESTION IS I’VE BEEN MARRIED FOR 13 YEARS NOW AND MY HUSBAND ACTS LIKE HE DOESN’T WANT TO BE BOTHERED ANYMORE. WE USE TO MAKE LOVE AT LEAST 3 OR 4 TIMES A WEEK. NOW IT’S LIKE ONCE OR TWICE A MONTH. THE THING…
Frank Discussion With Dr. Kaye Dakota from Seattle, Wa Q: We have been together 4 yrs and married for 1 1/2. My inner feeling is really messed up. I feel I’m angry and with fear … I don’t know why. I have problems trusting my husband, lack of sex interest, everything … I wondered why?…
Frank Discussion With Dr. Kaye Mary from Wellsburg, NY Q: Please help! I have been married for only 8 months now. The main problem is, that since the day we said “I do”, my husband has become increasingly self-centered. He is also no longer interested in sex. He refuses to tell me I look good,…
Frank Discussion With Dr. Kaye Cindy from Mass, NY Q: How can you improve communication in a relationship A: Cindy, your question is like a Rorschach ink blot for marriage counselors. Hmmmmm. Let me see. How many tomes do I want to write? How about a short version. Both parties can increase self-awareness so that…
Frank Discussion With Dr. Kaye Rebecca from Indiana Q: My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years. This is the second marriage for both of us. We’ve had some problems and have separated twice. We went for counseling for a short while. Things are just okay now. The problem is that my…
Frank Discussion With Dr. Kaye Cheryl from Evansville, Indiana Q: My husband is a production supervisor at a major manufacturing plant (makes really good money) and works many odd hour shifts….sometimes 32 hours on a 48 hour weekend!! (after a 40 hour week) When he is on this shift (2nd) he tends to ignore me…
Frank Discussion With Dr. Kaye Sheri from Washington Q: Do you offer any type of counseling or can you direct me to some that has to do with a spouse using the internet for cyber sex? And of course the wife not knowing about it and finding out? Thank you, Sheri. A: Sheri. I’m afraid…
Trust It’s one of those sacred words in relationship lingo that automatically projects an aura of goodness and wholesomeness. Conversely, “mistrust” seems to reek of evil and pathology. If you ever want to evoke visceral and mindless reaction from someone, just ask “Don’t you trust me?” Most people will reflexively and thoughtlessly reassure you that…
Set and keep firm limits First of all, let’s dispense with the notion of immediate “friendship.” If you’ve been struggling with a destructive relationship, then you’re going to need more distance than that. Friendship is possible when both parties have fairly good emotional boundaries around what’s private and not common ground. Coming from a destructive…
When I was a child my parents once gave me a book of children’s poems that contained the following lyric: Mother may I take a swim? Yes my darling daughter. Just hang your clothes on a hickory limb And don’t go near the water! – From “A Rocket In My Pocket” To many of us,…